Yager writes a wonderful book on friendships that have gone bad. While not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime, many do, and when friendships start to go sour what do you do? Jan Yager has a clear understanding of what healthy relationships should be, and how they should make you feel, and that you have a responsibility in them. She also has clear guidelines of when friendships start to go badly what can be done. My favorite part of the book is her short quiz on is the relationship … [Read more...]
When Friendships End
December 26, 2006 By 1 Comment
So often I have asked myself what are the rules when a friendship ends. How long do you try to keep the relationship going? How long do you make attempts to get together? When do you just throw in the towel and move on? Most importantly, how do you emotionally deal with someone that was important to you moving on out of your life. I have read books on this, and scanned the Internet looking for solid advice to this problem. You know, I haven't found solid and consistent advice. There are many … [Read more...]
Should relationships be reciprocal?
April 16, 2006 By Leave a Comment
Have you ever had a one-sided relationship with someone? Have you ever wondered what your role with another person was? Sometimes having the friend that only speaks about themselves, their interests, or what is important leaves you to feeling drained. What do you do? What do you give up to be involved with such a person? Friendships, as well as romantic relationships are all about being there for another person. Sometimes they are there for you, sometimes you are their support system. What do … [Read more...]
What do you exchange for friendship?
March 25, 2006 By Leave a Comment
What do you exchange for friendship? by Stephanie Manley Have you ever thought about what you exchange of yourself in a relationship with someone else? What part of you do you hold back, or what parts do you share? How do you know your being received? Often I have asked myself these very questions. These questions apply in romantic as well as platonic relationships. What do you give up to be with someone else? Ideally perfect relationships should happen all of the time, but they do not. … [Read more...]
Want to know more about a person? Look at their friends.
October 12, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Want to know more about a person? Look at their friends. By Stephanie Manley Do you want to know more about the person you are dating? See who their friends are. Knowing who a person hangs around tells you so much about them. What at their values? Do they have long term stable relationships? Are all of their friends short term newly minted friendships? Does your potential mate keep you away from their friends? Answers to these questions can be green lights, or huge red flags. Let's take a … [Read more...]