Why Settle? By Stephanie Manley When dating we all too often settle for someone that is not quite right. Why should we ever settle for something that isn’t quite right, especially when it comes to person that you hope to have an intimate relationship with? It may be ok to settle for a hamburger when you really want a steak, but when you’re dating; you’re talking about a relationship that is vital to you as a person. Why not define what you want before hand and then let potential dates … [Read more...]
What is a boundary in a relationship?
July 14, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Relationships: What in the world is a boundary? By Stephanie Manley You might ask yourself, I have heard this word boundary, but I do not know what it means. Boundaries are often mentioned in terms of relationships. Boundaries are a simple concept, but they can vary from person to person. Boundaries essentially keep the good stuff on the inside and the bad stuff on the outside. In the book Making Dating Work Boundaries in Dating, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend discuss boundaries at … [Read more...]
What is a Red Flag?
July 14, 2005 By Leave a Comment
What is a Red Flag? By Stephanie Manley The focus of many of the last few articles has been on what is does a dangerous person look like, who you should avoid, but did you know that we all have personal red flags available if we just listen to them. Red Flags are signals that we all have, although they may differ just slightly. For some of us they are internal mental grumblings, for others of us it a sinking feeling you get inside, and for some when our bodies are really giving a message it … [Read more...]
Three Qualities of a Good Relationship
July 11, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Three qualities of a good relationship By Stephanie Manley All relationships have some adjustment periods, but being hurt shouldn’t be part of being in love. Loving relationships have good qualities, such as support from your partner, a willingness to communicate, a desire to compromise, and open an honest communication. When you do not have these fundamental qualities in a relationship, that relationship isn’t likely to grow, and become something that you desire. We all turn to our … [Read more...]
Question about infidelity
July 7, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Having a discussion with someone this weekend, we wondered that if cheating on your partner with someone or just ignoring your partner was an equivalent. In both instances you are denying your partner their exsistance in your relationship with that, additionally you are intenaionally freezing them out of the relationship so to speak. So is cheating something more than the conventional idea of cheating on your spouse with another person? I do believe so. In a relationship, you have a partnership … [Read more...]