In my private practice for over 14 years no matter what my clients have come to see me about, there has always been an issue about a better relationship. Here are 7 of the most common misconceptions my clients have related to me about having a better relationship. These misconceptions are followed by my perspective on each one of them. Myth 1 I have to love everything about my partner Reality Check 1 You were born pure and pristine. You then learnt behaviors from your parents, … [Read more...]
Why Can’t We Just Get Along
October 11, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Why Can't We Just Get Along By Stephanie Manley In relationships with other people we often struggle when we as a member of a couple have disagreement with our partner. Sometimes it helps to look at a situation with a different set of eyes. So often when we have a disagreement or a falling out with our partner we look at the situation with the mindset that our partner did something to us. Thinking that our partner did something to us is the easiest, and likely the most familiar way to look … [Read more...]
What is a healthy Relationship
October 3, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Countless times individuals want to hold on to a love that is not healthy because many years have been invested. They say things like “we’ve been together for all these years, why leave.” Sometimes people stay in a bad relationship because it looks good to the outside world or because they are unsure what life would be like without their mate. However, deep inside their hearts they long to experience a truly fulfilling love. I held on to an unhealthy relationship for 7 years before I … [Read more...]
Relationship Red Flags Do Appear Early On
August 19, 2005 By Leave a Comment
Relationship Red Flags Do Appear Early On By Stephanie Manley So often in the bloom of a new romance we set aside a few “minor” character flaws to let the relationship continue, where sometimes we really should just end it early, and cut our losses. I’ll make a list of a few of the ones that often come up. Unfortunately, individuals that have these red flags are often the most charismatic people in the room. So be careful when you are starting out, so you can disengage before you are … [Read more...]
How realistic are we?
August 15, 2005 By Leave a Comment
How realistic are we? By Stephanie Manley So often when we think of our ideal mate we give them qualities and attributes that one person may or may not be able to possess. These qualities can be how they look, how they treat us, to something like what kind of job that they have. Are these ideas realistic? Sometimes yes, and sometimes we are way off the mark. A good exercise may be to write down these ideals and see how realistic we are. By writing down the characteristics we desire in a … [Read more...]