"The Loser" Warning Signs You're Dating a Loser Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D., Psychologist Introduction Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness. In the beginning, "the honeymoon" of the relationship, it's difficult to determine what type of individual you are dating. Both you and the date are guarded, trying to obtain information about the other as much as possible without seeming like a police detective. Romantic relationships can be wonderful with the … [Read more...]
When dating someone how much should you sacrifice of yourself?
January 29, 2006 By Leave a Comment
A situation came up this weekend, that made me think of this question. While often we give up large parts of ourselves when we are in a relationship, I have to wonder how much is enough, too much, or not enough. Should we allow ourselves to be pushed in different directions and if so, how much. I have often felt at a loss to much is the right amount. First let me relate a story to you, about this weekend. I do come cycling, and I was around a couple that also do some cycling. Well, one of the … [Read more...]
Why is it so hard to let go of a destructive person
January 25, 2006 By Leave a Comment
Why is it so hard? Relationships with difficult people, or even a narcisst leaves you so much more involved than a relationship with a more normal person. When those relationships break off it is more than the relationship that you break, you also let the dream die that the relationship had any possibility for a normal, healthy relationship. It is the realization of this that eats at our core. Not only do you have the pain and angst of a relationship dying, you have the awful realization … [Read more...]
Looking for Love
October 19, 2005 By Leave a Comment
The complaint is well known: women meet men who want to have sex right away, even on the first date. How can a woman get a man to wait until she knows him better? There are a few ways this issue can be addressed, so I will be making two points: one will pertain to how a woman presents herself and behaves on a date, which is addressed specifically to women. In the second point I will address the sex and dating issue directly, which will be of benefit to women as well as men. When I hear … [Read more...]
Dating Red Flags – When the Behavior Does Not Match the Words
October 18, 2005 By Leave a Comment
You folks know how I love to delve into those Red Flags. Here is a recent article that I read and enjoyed. Stephanie Manley Q: The woman I am dating is very confusing. She will promise to do something and I believe she really means it, and then goes out and either does not do what she promised and/or does the opposite. This is starting to drive me nuts, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Can you help? A: One of the main principles that has helped me through all of these years of … [Read more...]