This was an article that I was recently sent. Lots of good advice in here! Stephanie This article is contributed by Sam Vaknin, Ph.D, author of the book, "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited". a.. Abusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. b.. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be … [Read more...]
Should relationships be reciprocal?
April 16, 2006 By Leave a Comment
Have you ever had a one-sided relationship with someone? Have you ever wondered what your role with another person was? Sometimes having the friend that only speaks about themselves, their interests, or what is important leaves you to feeling drained. What do you do? What do you give up to be involved with such a person? Friendships, as well as romantic relationships are all about being there for another person. Sometimes they are there for you, sometimes you are their support system. What do … [Read more...]
How to be involved with a narcissist
April 16, 2006 By 8 Comments
I get asked this alot. How to you be in a relationship with a narcissist at best is difficult. My honestly advice, is to stop. End that relationship, end it as soon as possible. I can't emphasize that no one needs to be in a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists by nature aren't capable of normal relationships. Do not full yourself into thinking that you can do anything to make the relationship worthwhile, or have any qualities that a relationship with any normal person. It is a … [Read more...]
How start breaking free from a narcissist
March 28, 2006 By 37 Comments
How start breaking free from a narcissist Are you with a narcissist? Does your life feel complicated beyond belief? Is all of your anxiety typically centered around one person? Do you find that person gives you standards that you can’t keep up with, because their standards change all of the time? You may be with a narcissist. Life is a narcissist is a living hell. One thing is critical though, you must divorce yourself from getting self validation from this person. Secretly this person … [Read more...]
What do you exchange for friendship?
March 25, 2006 By Leave a Comment
What do you exchange for friendship? by Stephanie Manley Have you ever thought about what you exchange of yourself in a relationship with someone else? What part of you do you hold back, or what parts do you share? How do you know your being received? Often I have asked myself these very questions. These questions apply in romantic as well as platonic relationships. What do you give up to be with someone else? Ideally perfect relationships should happen all of the time, but they do not. … [Read more...]