Comments on: Men – Advice http://stephaniemanley.com/2006/06/men-advice/ Commentary about life, relationships, food, and more Wed, 06 Jul 2011 04:24:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Shane http://stephaniemanley.com/2006/06/men-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-192 Shane Sun, 14 Mar 2010 16:13:41 +0000 http://stephaniemanley.com/?p=63#comment-192 A good start, but I agree with the anonymous posters- being open and honest is best. I have read that one needs to reveal one's private information in layers- least private or potentially damaging first- see if the other person responds with equal-level information in return. If not, don't reveal anything deeper, and find someone else to date. Do not do a complete revelation to another person without descending through the different levels together, again, in mutual fashion. The mark of a person who can truly be trusted is when they know things about one's self, yet do not use that information against one, when in a vigorous discussion, or expressing a difference of opinion. People who exploit one's vulnerabilities should never be trusted, are not friends, and will never be good mates. A good start, but I agree with the anonymous posters- being open and honest is best. I have read that one needs to reveal one’s private information in layers- least private or potentially damaging first- see if the other person responds with equal-level information in return. If not, don’t reveal anything deeper, and find someone else to date. Do not do a complete revelation to another person without descending through the different levels together, again, in mutual fashion.

The mark of a person who can truly be trusted is when they know things about one’s self, yet do not use that information against one, when in a vigorous discussion, or expressing a difference of opinion. People who exploit one’s vulnerabilities should never be trusted, are not friends, and will never be good mates.

]]> By: Anonymous http://stephaniemanley.com/2006/06/men-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Anonymous Sat, 15 Sep 2007 04:16:00 +0000 http://stephaniemanley.com/?p=63#comment-29 Well, some of your advice is sound. But there's an issue here: You are making one valiant effort in morphing the women who read this into the epitome of what's wrong with American Culture. "Never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later." Hence, we have structured the struggle to power. It may be idealistic and there may always be such struggle in its many forms, but the FIRST thing needed in a successful fruitful relationship is openness and honesty. Don't hide anything!! If he/she tries to use things against you (past sexual encounters, etc.) he not the guy you need to be with...but don't start the relationship off on the wrong foot by holding back. Bad juju. Well, some of your advice is sound. But there’s an issue here: You are making one valiant effort in morphing the women who read this into the epitome of what’s wrong with American Culture. “Never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later.” Hence, we have structured the struggle to power. It may be idealistic and there may always be such struggle in its many forms, but the FIRST thing needed in a successful fruitful relationship is openness and honesty. Don’t hide anything!! If he/she tries to use things against you (past sexual encounters, etc.) he not the guy you need to be with…but don’t start the relationship off on the wrong foot by holding back. Bad juju.

]]> By: Anonymous http://stephaniemanley.com/2006/06/men-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Anonymous Tue, 19 Jun 2007 20:08:00 +0000 http://stephaniemanley.com/?p=63#comment-24 I agree with all these..<br/>Great article :-) I agree with all these..
Great article :-)

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