Why is it so hard?
Relationships with difficult people, or even a narcisst leaves you so much more involved than a relationship with a more normal person. When those relationships break off it is more than the relationship that you break, you also let the dream die that the relationship had any possibility for a normal, healthy relationship. It is the realization of this that eats at our core.
Not only do you have the pain and angst of a relationship dying, you have the awful realization that you were involved with a person that was bad for you. There may have been times an points during that relationship when you knew things were going badly, but stayed in the relationship for the possible payoff that it may have had at times, or simply the possibility of a good payoff.
The payoff may have been something as simple as a good evening out with your mate, or it may have been something far more reaching, like marriage. It is always frustrating when dreams die. You may have been involved with this person for a long or possibly a short time. We carry our dreams from relationship to relationship so those dreams we may have associated with that person are far more deep rooted than our time involved with that person.
It may seem at times to let go of that person is the most difficult thing to do in the world. How do you stop thinking about them? How do you stop thinking about the dreams that you may have shared with that other person? You must simply cast off that person and let go when the relationship ends.
Try to visualize something that breaks. Think of your relationship as a pebble that you hold in your hand. As you toss it into a lake you see the ripples that it makes. Those ripples may make waves that wash over your feet, but realize that time has passed. Sometimes we need to let go of one thing, so we can hold something else in our hands.
